What I'm made of
I’ve spent most of my life in careers built on paying close attention.
For nearly thirty years, I worked as an esthetician — a job that’s really about noticing things most people miss. Before and alongside that, I served at white linen restaurants, applied makeup for special occasions, and cared for animals and livestock.
Different rooms, same skill: reading a person or a creature quickly, anticipating what they need before they say it, and making sure they feel taken care of the whole time.
Waiting tables taught me timing and grace under pressure. Makeup taught me how to really see someone —their face, their mood, what makes them feel like themselves. Caring for animals taught me patience and a kind of quiet attentiveness that can’t be faked.
Over the years I’ve thrown pots, landscaped gardens, and lead a rock ‘n roll band. I’m currently writing my first novel. I still love to create and appreciate art. I hope you’ll sense and appreciate my creative flair upon meeting me, it’s woven into all that I do.
A 2024 accident closed the esthetician chapter of my life, but it didn’t close me. It just asked me to bring everything I’d learned into something more important.
Today, I bring that same care into coaching and companionship built on genuine connection. I’m not interested in scripts or performances —I’m interested in you.
In a world of automated everything, I think what people are actually starving for is simple: to be truly seen and heard by someone who’s paying real attention.
That’s what I offer.
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I also bring my training in relationship and intimacy coaching, along with decades of life experience I wouldn’t trade for anything. I know who I am. I’m not chasing trends —I’ve already done the work of becoming myself, and that steadiness is part of what people find valuable while spending time with me.
Trust me when I say I would never try to change you, but should you desire to explore deeper levels of authenticity and intimacy, I’m here for it.
Let’s not bury the lead, I’m in my late 50’s. Although you’ll see in my testimonials, below, that a client proclaimed I’ve the body of a fit thirty-five year old! My point being is that I’m perfect for the silver fox that wants to be with someone close in age OR that young man who either wants to learn a thing or two or desires roll-play. Use my age to your advantage, whatever that may be.
I keep my calendar intentional, with time set aside for people who want to slow down rather than squeeze in one more thing. Consider it an invitation to step out of the rush of life and simply land calm, present, and easy.
If you’re looking for real attention over performance — I think we should meet.